Take Back Your Power: 5 Things to Finally Let Go
There comes a moment in every woman’s life when you realises it’s time to stop carrying what no longer serves you. Whether it’s toxic people, old habits, or heavy expectations, letting go is the ultimate act of self-love—and the key to stepping into your power. If you’re ready to clear out what’s holding you back, here are five things to finally release so you can find happiness and live on your own terms.
1. Toxic Relationships
Unfortunately, we’ve all dealt with toxic relationships—whether it’s a partner, friend, or even a family member. These connections slowly chip away at your happiness, confidence, and peace of mind. If a relationship makes you anxious, drains your energy, or leaves you doubting yourself, it’s time to let it go. Prioritise healthy connections that lift you up and bring out your best. Remember: you deserve relationships that feel like sunshine, not storms.
“The moment you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do.”
2. Control Mindset
No matter how hard you try, you can’t control everything. Pouring your energy into changing other people or impossible situations only leaves you stressed and burnt out. Worrying will not change the outcome, but it will change you. Even though it is essential to feel your emotions when something goes wrong, it’s just as important that you focus on what you can control—your reaction, your boundaries, and your self-care. The rest? Let it flow. Trust that what’s meant for you will find you, even if you can’t see it yet.
That Girl Mantra: Let life flow and trust the process.
3. People-Pleasing
People-pleasing can sneak into every part of your life, but it’s time to get comfortable with saying “no.” Every time you say yes when you want to say no or put someone else's needs before your own, you are doing a disservice to yourself and neglecting your thoughts, feelings, and boundaries. Practice tuning into what you really want and need and learning to say no. The more you learn to say no, the more you honour your own voice and peace.
Reminder: the only people who feel upset about your boundaries are often the ones who benefit from you not having any.
4. Seeking External Validation
It’s natural to want approval, whether it’s from friends, family, or even strangers online. But when you rely on others’ validation, you give away your power. Do not place the validation of others above the validation you give to yourself. Instead, become your own biggest supporter: celebrate your wins, speak kindly to yourself, do things that you love, and make yourself happy. Build a sense of self so strong that no one else’s opinion can shake it. Before you look to others, ask yourself, what can I give to myself that I am seeking from others? And do it!
“Allow yourself to shine without the desire to be seen.”
5. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Social media is a highlight reel, not real life. Comparing yourself to others (online or off) only steals your joy, throws you off track, and ruins your confidence. Everyone’s journey is different, and what you see on social media is just a carefully curated snippet. Instead of measuring your worth against someone else’s feed, focus on your own growth and embrace your unique path. Stay patient with yourself, enjoy everything you have right now, and celebrate your progress—no matter how small. There’s only one you, and that’s your gift. Enjoy the process of becoming your own favourite person, and let go of the need to fit someone else’s mould. You are enough, just as you are.
“Constant comparison is the thief of joy.”